Who is your Best Friend

I seem to have come across quite a few blogs about best friends and of course why wouldn’t I?  This is a blogging site about relationships after all and aren’t these the relationships that mold us into who we really are, sometimes even more than our parents?  I’ve heard it or read it before and I’m not sure where so I apologize but “Family is who we are given but our friends are the family that we choose,” (I also apologize if I didn’t word it quite right). 

I am one of those people that actually have quite a few people that I consider best friends or real friends.  It sounds funny with more than one best friend but how do choose one above all other when they all mean the same to you but in different ways.  I find it hard to choose.  Besides I am their best friend so why wouldn’t I consider them one of mine. 

They all come from different walks of life and from different stages of my life.  But they have all been there for me through my trials and tribulations that I call life.  They all represent a piece of who I am and helped me find myself when I was lost. 

My Brother Married My Soul Mate

My brother married my soul mate.

I believe that a soul mate can be found in more than just a significant other. I believe that we even have more than one soul mate throughout our lives or even at once. A soul mate to me is someone that we connect with at an inner deeper level. The actual definition of Soul mate is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity,love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility.

My sister in law and I are what some people may call two peas in a pod. We have been sister in laws for about 8 nears now. I’m guessing here, shhh don’t tell her because I was one of her two maids of honor. We pretty much hit it off from the get go.

She has kind of taken on a second role as I call her my own personal counselor, boy I can tell you she is saving me a boatload of money. But in return she calls me to vent and the works too. Usually ending with a "Thanks for warning me before I married your brother" returned with a "Sorry, I had to get rid of him somehow." Of course all in good fun, we both love him.

We are normally the two people in a quiet room that are laughing. A lot of times we are laughing about absolutely nothing or something that may have happened a week ago. Half of the time we don’t even have to say anything we just start laughing knowing what the other is thinking. Of course we are always the first to laugh at each other and our stupid crap. Most people do not get it but we definitely do. My mom always asks us if we are sure we weren’t sisters in a past life.

My mom likes having us around because we are guaranteed entertainment if nothing else. The time that the three of us went on a trip for my work and turned it into a kid free weekend getaway for the three of us. It was kind of an adventure (unfortunately we were afraid it might be my mom’s last adventure) to get my mom up and going again after she was released from the hospital and still confined to her wheelchair. After the three-day trip five hours away she was starting to walk again. Even though I’m still not sure if it was my mom’s determination or the fear of what stupid thing the two of us would do next that got her to get up and get walking again. But I will say it would take the two of us to get her going one way or the other.

We have had many of the same struggles in life and we have the same ambitions in life. We have become business partners, even though some ventures are more successful than others are. In fact we are still working on some hopefully successful ones but we don’t get discouraged. If one thing doesn’t work we move onto the next possibility. Under most circumstances two people wouldn’t get past the first unsuccessful attempt but we keep plugging away. Now we are onto the next venture or in our case you might call it an adventure.

Hopefully we all find our soul mates in life, whether it is a lover, sister, or friend. Maybe someday I will find the other soul mate of my life but I will enjoy myself until then.

LIVE, LAUGH, and LOVE